FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO LEAD DIFFERENTLY
Leadership coaching
The Hague or online.
The Hague or online.
You lead people, and that asks something of you that you did not learn at school. You read books, you take trainings, you have a few models in your head, and still the leadership you want to embody is not always what comes out of you in the moment.
You do not get up each day just to function in your team. You get up as a person who wants to step into the day.
You sense that something beneath your style of leading does not fit. Maybe too kind for your own comfort, maybe too directive for the team, maybe too hard on yourself. You do not need someone to hand you a new model. You are looking for a space where you can find out who you are as a leader and how that can come into expression in your daily choices.
Many leaders were once good at their craft and were promoted on that basis to a role in which the craft barely counts anymore. Others were born for the role, but notice that the old way no longer works in this time.
You recognise certain behaviour from your previous boss, your father, your mentor. Sometimes it works, sometimes it pinches. It is not always the version of leadership you yourself would want.
You delay them or apply patches. But you notice that the real issue only becomes more pressing.
When work goes badly, it feels very personal. When it goes well, it fills you with euphoria. That sometimes has a price and you sense yourself moving away from yourself.
Leadership coaching with me is not primarily about skills. It is about you as a person who leads and what that asks in self-knowledge, courage and clarity. The tools follow, when the foundation fits.
We look not only at what you do as a leader but at what steers you. Which assumptions sit beneath your choices, which old experiences still play out, how does your inner voice sound. Those are the places where leadership actually forms.
Sessions last 1.5 to 2 hours. Leadership is not a subject that lets itself be ticked off. Everything is welcome. Without judgement, with full attention.
What you say here stays here. You can doubt, fail, contradict yourself. That is part of it.
Sessions take place on location in The Hague (indoor or outdoor), online, or a combination.
Leaders who come here usually do not notice that they become a different person. They notice that they dare to show more of themselves and that this changes the work and their relationships.
No longer copying others or leaning on prescribed models. You develop a style that carries your values and that works in your context.
With people who do not function, with colleagues who cross your line, with yourself when you are stuck somewhere. You take them on sooner, honestly and grounded in yourself.
Your identity leans less on your position. That makes your calm greater and your leadership clearer, because you do not have to take every signal as personal.
When time is short and the stakes are high, your system often switches to default with old patterns. By knowing those patterns, you can choose not to go along with them anymore.
People notice when you lead from a different layer. You often do not have to explain it. You can be there sooner and say more with fewer words.
Leadership coaching is an umbrella term covering many forms. I clarify what this is and what it is not for me.
This is not a training. If you are looking for models on situational leadership, giving feedback, or delegating, there are excellent training providers. They offer structure, theory and practice. My work connects to that, but starts from a different level. Not what you should be able to do, but who you are when you lead.
Nor is this executive coaching. Executive coaching focuses on the top of organisations, where the layers of pressure, confidentiality and strategic influence are particular. Leadership coaching as I do it focuses on managers, team leads, project leads and entrepreneurs who lead without sitting at the highest table.
This is not coaching-on-the-job. I do not sit in on a meeting and then give feedback on how you stood in it. That can be valuable for those who want to change concrete behaviour. My work lies in what sits behind it.
What you get here is a form that combines psychological depth with practical application. I work with three pillars. Psychology, for patterns you carry from your history. Systemic work, for how your position in the team, family or organisation shapes you. And an integral, experience-based approach from Eastern wisdom traditions, so that not only your head does something with leadership but also your body and your attention.
That integral approach makes it possible to move past the familiar advice. Because most leaders by now know perfectly well what they should be doing. They just do not know why they do something else in the moment. That is the work here.
For those who want to deepen leadership as a person, not as a function, this form fits perfectly.
I work with leaders and entrepreneurs who feel their leadership asks more than familiar tools can give. My approach combines psychology, systemic work and Eastern wisdom traditions. No fixed step-by-step plan, no quick fix. But room to see more deeply what is actually going on and to move from there with more clarity. I work on location in The Hague. Sessions live indoor or outdoor, online or in combination.
Each package starts with a no-obligation introduction. We discuss your situation and look together at which package suits you. The sessions after that last 1.5 to 2 hours, so we can stand still with you with all the room and attention, without rush or pressure.
A compass for those who want to take a first step. In three sessions we look at what is going on, you recognise your patterns, beliefs and stories and you get fresh insights to take into your work straight away.
For those who want to go to the core. In six sessions we create room for essential change. You explore who you are beyond your patterns, beliefs and stories, and learn to live and work from there.
For specific questions such as (impending) burnout, grief, major life changes or reintegration. A package fully tuned to what you need.
Get in touch for a no-obligation proposal
After a completed package you can always come back for a single session of 1.5 to 2 hours. For a check-in, deepening, or when something new shows up on your path.
Many employers reimburse coaching through the training budget, so it is worth asking. Are the costs a barrier for you? Let me know. There is sometimes room.
In a no-obligation introduction we explore together what is going on and whether there is a click. No commitments, just an honest conversation.
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