WORKING FROM WHAT MATTERS
Value based coaching
The Hague or online.
The Hague or online.
You have achieved a lot, and at the same time the feeling sometimes creeps in that you fill your life with things that do not quite fit you. You say yes to assignments, to collaborations, to growth, sometimes to relationships, and only afterwards do you notice that something there was rubbing.
Your values are not gone. They have only disappeared under a layer of what must be done and what pays off.
You sense that you want to choose more sharply. Not based on what is smart on paper or what others expect of you, but based on what truly matters to you. You do not need someone who has you fill in a values list. You need someone who helps you find out what your own pointers are and how to bring them back into your decisions.
Everyone talks about values. In mission statements, on company days, in leadership books. In practice, acting truly from your own values when pressure rises is harder than it seems.
You can name them when asked, but in the moment of a choice they hardly play a part. What does play a part is what was said yesterday, what the numbers need, or what the shortest route is.
You value opportunities by what they bring in. Relationships by what they give you. Time by what is productive. That has taken you far. But something is also starting to crumble.
Not so much that something is wrong, more that something no longer fits. That signal keeps returning and you do not know how to take it seriously without turning your whole life upside down.
In value based coaching we do not work with a standard questionnaire and a nice poster. We explore which values actually sit behind your choices, which you would want there, and where the gap hurts.
We go beyond naming values. We look at where they come from, which conflicts they carry, and how they play out in your body and your choices. That makes them workable instead of decorative.
Sessions last 1.5 to 2 hours. Values are not a subject that gets resolved in fifteen minutes. Everything is welcome. Without judgement, with full attention.
What you say here stays here. You can doubt, contradict yourself, change your mind. That is part of the work.
Sessions take place on location in The Hague (indoor or outdoor), online, or a combination.
People who go through a package usually notice it not from one big insight but in a stacking of small shifts. Together those shifts make a different line.
You can sense earlier whether something fits you. That saves energy and keeps you from getting stuck for months in projects that made sense on paper.
Decisions you make from your values rarely gnaw afterwards. You stand behind them, even when the outcome disappoints. That is a different kind of calm.
Because you know what matters to you, you can name it better. To your team, to clients, to those close to you. Fewer detours, more clear lines.
When you work from your values, that draws in people who can come along, and people for whom it does not fit step away. Both are gains.
The chronic rubbing voice in your head you could not quite place becomes quieter. Not because you become more shallow, but because you have tuned your behaviour to what you deeply know.
Value based coaching is a relatively new term and overlaps with other forms. Here I explain what it is in my work and where it differs from neighbouring forms.
Standard values exercises, where you pick five core values from a list of forty and hang them on the wall, are not our approach. They give language for what you find important, but they do not touch the layer where your real drivers sit. In value based coaching we move past the story you tell yourself and let the answers come from a deeper layer.
Life coaching and personal coaching touch the same area but are broader. There it is about direction, wellbeing, balance. Here the focus is specifically on how your values play out in your decisions and how you start living from there.
In leadership coaching and executive coaching values also play a role, but the primary focus is on your role as a leader. In value based coaching the values system itself is central. What comes out of that for leadership follows.
What you get here is a path that starts with discovering which values are leading for you. Not the values that look good or that you would like to have, but the values that are visible in what you do, choose and avoid. That can be confronting. What you do does not always tell the same story as what you say.
Then we work on the tension between your lived values and the values you actually want to give voice to. That tension is the work area. Not the list, not the poster.
I work through three pillars. Psychology, for how values were formed and how old patterns run on. Systemic work, for which values from your family or work environment you have taken on without knowing it. And an integral, experience-based approach from Eastern wisdom traditions, in which we feel what a value does to you when you stand on it.
This form suits anyone who wants to touch a deeper layer. For a quick values compass there are simpler routes.
I work with entrepreneurs and leaders who feel their decisions rub against something deeper and who do not want to ignore that. My approach combines Western psychology, systemic work and Eastern wisdom traditions with an integral, experience-based way of looking. No fixed step-by-step plan, no quick fix. But room to see more deeply what is actually going on and to move from there with more clarity. I work on location in The Hague. Sessions live indoor or outdoor, online or in combination.
Each package starts with a no-obligation introduction. We discuss your situation and look together at which package suits you. The sessions after that last 1.5 to 2 hours, so we can stand still with you with all the room and attention, without rush or pressure.
A compass for those who want to take a first step. In three sessions we look at what is going on, you recognise your patterns, beliefs and stories and you get fresh insights to take into your work straight away.
For those who want to go to the core. In six sessions we create room for essential change. You explore who you are beyond your patterns, beliefs and stories, and learn to live and work from there.
For specific questions such as (impending) burnout, grief, major life changes or reintegration. A package fully tuned to what you need.
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After a completed package you can always come back for a single session of 1.5 to 2 hours. For a check-in, deepening, or when something new shows up on your path.
Many employers reimburse coaching through the training budget, so it is worth asking. Are the costs a barrier for you? Let me know. There is sometimes room.
In a no-obligation introduction we explore together what is going on and whether there is a click. No commitments, just an honest conversation.
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