BEYOND DOING, INTO BEING
Being coaching
The Hague or online.
The Hague or online.
You have done a lot and become a lot. On paper you have succeeded. And still something gnaws in you. Even if you do not quite know where that goes. There is something you cannot make contact with.
Your question is not "what should I do differently". Your question is "who am I beneath all that I do".
You are looking for someone who works with you at that level. Not on a new goal, not on a behaviour pattern, but on the layer of who you are when you are not optimising or proving.
For people who have built their identity largely on doing, a phase sometimes arises in which doing feels empty without anything going wrong.
What used to make you proud now feels flat. You cannot really enjoy it. So you look for a new goal to chase.
Stillness is hard. On holiday you need three days to settle, and then you do not really know what to do with the time. Doing has become your identity.
With yourself, with others, with something bigger. Not as spiritual quest, but as a feeling that there is more than results.
Being coaching with me is not a method or path. It is work in which we make room for what is when doing is not the first layer. Who you are, how you stand in your life, what happens when you fall still.
We work with presence. How are you in a conversation, in your work, in your relationships, when you are not occupied with what you have to do?
Sessions last 1.5 to 2 hours. Being work does not let itself be settled in twenty minutes. Everything is welcome. Without judgement, with full attention.
What you say here stays here. You do not have to achieve anything to be welcome. That alone is a shift for many.
Sessions take place on location in The Hague (indoor or outdoor), online, or a combination.
What being coaching brings is not a list of goals to be ticked off. It is a different relationship with yourself and with your life.
The things you do are less reactive. What you do, you do from a different starting point.
You notice you are more often present in what you are doing, instead of already busy with the next.
Stillness becomes less scary. You learn what is when you do nothing, and that often turns out to be enough.
With yourself, with people around you, with your life as it is. Not as performance, but as your being.
Decisions you make from presence have a different quality. They are often calmer and more lasting.
Being coaching is a term used in different streams. Some variants are strongly spiritual, others are psychological, others come from non-dual traditions. My take is a combination.
This is not non-dual or spiritual coaching in the sense of a specific tradition. For those looking for the advaita-vedanta path or another spiritual way, there are specialised teachers. My work is not from a spiritual framework.
Nor is this mindfulness training. For developing attention as a skill there are excellent programmes. My work assumes some basis there and builds further on the layer of who you are in your daily life.
What you get here is working with presence in a coaching context. We explore how you stand in your life, what happens when you are not doing, and how you can not only exist there but also make choices from a different starting point. We also look at how you relate to that.
I work with three pillars. Psychology, to understand how your identity has been formed. Systemic work, to see which forces and relationships drive you. And Eastern wisdom as the foundation for the experience-based integral approach.
I work with people who feel that doing mode no longer feeds them and who want to explore who they are beyond what they perform. My approach combines psychology, systemic work and Eastern wisdom. No fixed step-by-step plan, no quick fix. But room to see more deeply what is actually going on and to move from there with more clarity. I work on location in The Hague. Sessions live indoor or outdoor, online or in combination.
Each package starts with a no-obligation introduction. We discuss your situation and look together at which package suits you. The sessions after that last 1.5 to 2 hours, so we can stand still with you with all the room and attention, without rush or pressure.
A compass for those who want to take a first step. In three sessions we look at what is going on, you recognise your patterns, beliefs and stories and you get fresh insights to take into your work straight away.
For those who want to go to the core. In six sessions we create room for essential change. You explore who you are beyond your patterns, beliefs and stories, and learn to live and work from there.
For specific questions such as (impending) burnout, grief, major life changes or reintegration. A package fully tuned to what you need.
Get in touch for a no-obligation proposal
After a completed package you can always come back for a single session of 1.5 to 2 hours. For a check-in, deepening, or when something new shows up on your path.
Many employers reimburse coaching through the training budget, so it is worth asking. Are the costs a barrier for you? Let me know. There is sometimes room.
In a no-obligation introduction we explore together what is going on and whether there is a click. No commitments, just an honest conversation.
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