FOR MEN WHO WANT TO LOOK FURTHER
Coaching for men
The Hague or online.
The Hague or online.
You have done a lot and carried a lot. Work, family, responsibilities. You were often the one who pushed on when others stopped, who solved what otherwise stayed undone, who hardly complained.
And now there is something you no longer simply put aside.
You are not a man who pulls the alarm at the first signal. That makes it stranger that this keeps returning. You notice that the strategy of pushing on and quiet work is no longer the answer. You are not looking for someone who knows it all better. You are looking for someone who stands beside you without judgement and works out with you how you really are.
Many men only speak up late. Not necessarily from a lack of feeling, but because the lines for expression are not so easy. As a result certain things remain unseen longer than is good.
At work, at home, in friendships. You are the one who stays stable when others wobble. That usually works, but there comes a moment when your own signals slowly push you to the edge.
Not because you feel nothing. But because you are not used to just saying it out loud. And because you are not sure it leads anywhere.
As father, partner, leader, son. You know what is expected of you and you meet it. Beneath those roles lies something that is less seen, and it is calling more loudly.
Coaching for men with me is not a course about masculinity. It is a place where your story is welcome, including the parts you speak less at home or at work.
We do not stay on the level of what visibly does not fit. We look at what sits beneath. What you have learned about what a man does, what you carry of that, and what you actually want to let go.
Sessions last 1.5 to 2 hours. For men less used to letting their inner world in, that time is often needed to truly land. Everything is welcome. Without judgement, with full attention.
What you say here stays here. You do not have to be strong, not soft, not anything in particular. You may be who you really are, with everything that comes with that.
Sessions take place on location in The Hague (indoor or outdoor), online, or a combination.
Men who finish a package often say they have not become someone else. They are more a version of themselves they had previously set aside.
You do not have to turn every signal into a plan. Something can be there for a while, that is allowed, and it moves on by itself.
With your partner, your children, your parents. You learn to say something you have not spoken for a long time. That is sometimes uncomfortable, but it makes everything lighter, for everyone.
You see better which responsibilities are really yours and which you took on because no one else did. That makes choices and priorities clearer.
Not because you suddenly have to do less. But because you know better what you do and do not carry along. That makes what remains easier to carry.
For many men this coaching works on a layer you cannot quite explain afterwards. You feel more solid, or lighter, or more open, without anything dramatic seeming to have changed.
Coaching for men with me is not an upgraded workshop. It is individual coaching, one-on-one, in which we work at your own pace.
It starts with an intake. An hour in which we see if there is a click and whether your question suits my approach. For many men this first conversation is already different from conversations they know. Not because exotic methods come into play, but because there is someone who stays calm and has no haste.
If we decide to work together, we choose a package. The duration we discuss together in the intake. For deeper work a bit more time is often more fitting, because for many men a few layers have to come off before the actual work begins.
In the first sessions you build trust. Between us, but mainly also in the process. You notice you do not have to perform, do not have to prove, do not have to function. That is in itself a shift. For many men it is an unfamiliar idea that you can simply be somewhere.
After that we work with what shows up. Sometimes that is concrete. A situation at work, things at home, a conflict that has been running. Sometimes it is less concrete. Restlessness, a sense of emptiness, a drive you cannot quite place. I work with what you bring, not with what I think you should bring.
Between sessions there is space. A lot of work happens there, without doing anything for it. Often you notice that a few days after the session things feel different.
At the end of the package we look back. What has changed, what have you learned to see differently, what do you want to take with you. Some men close clearly. Others decide to continue, because new layers have opened. Both is good.
What this form of coaching offers is something many men do not so easily find elsewhere in their lives. A place to be without strategy. That alone is for many a substantial difference.
I work with men who feel that their fixed way of pushing on is no longer enough and who want to find out what is really going on beneath the roles they carry. My approach combines psychology, systemic work and Eastern wisdom. No fixed step-by-step plan, no quick fix. But room to see more deeply what is actually going on and to move from there with more clarity. I work on location in The Hague. Sessions live indoor or outdoor, online or in combination.
Each package starts with a no-obligation introduction. We discuss your situation and look together at which package suits you. The sessions after that last 1.5 to 2 hours, so we can stand still with you with all the room and attention, without rush or pressure.
A compass for those who want to take a first step. In three sessions we look at what is going on, you recognise your patterns, beliefs and stories and you get fresh insights to take into your work straight away.
For those who want to go to the core. In six sessions we create room for essential change. You explore who you are beyond your patterns, beliefs and stories, and learn to live and work from there.
For specific questions such as (impending) burnout, grief, major life changes or reintegration. A package fully tuned to what you need.
Get in touch for a no-obligation proposal
After a completed package you can always come back for a single session of 1.5 to 2 hours. For a check-in, deepening, or when something new shows up on your path.
Many employers reimburse coaching through the training budget, so it is worth asking. Are the costs a barrier for you? Let me know. There is sometimes room.
In a no-obligation introduction we explore together what is going on and whether there is a click. No commitments, just an honest conversation.
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