ATTENTION WITH DEPTH
Mindfulness coaching
The Hague or online.
The Hague or online.
You have done a mindfulness course, or read about it, or used an app. Maybe it works. Maybe it does not work quite as you had hoped. It brought you somewhere, and still you miss something.
Mindfulness as exercise can help a lot. Mindfulness as a way of being touches something deeper. That is what this coaching is about.
You are looking for someone who works with you on attention in your life and your decisions, not only in a twenty-minute meditation. Someone who treats mindfulness not as a technique but as a starting point to explore who you really are in what you do.
Mindfulness is often taught as a skill. A breathing exercise, a body scan, a meditation. For those just starting, that fits. But once you are past that, it becomes a doorway to your being.
You do the exercises and notice they work, but afterwards everything is quickly back. That gives the feeling that mindfulness is not for you. The opposite is probably what is actually happening.
Mindfulness can also become a form of fleeing. You use it to move away from what is uncomfortable, instead of moving towards it with attention. That is a subtle difference a coach can help make visible.
The exercise works, but integration into your daily life remains a challenge. Your head is calmer, but your life is not arranged differently.
Mindfulness coaching with me is not a mindfulness training. For those who want to learn the basics, there are excellent programmes such as MBSR. What I do begins where those programmes end. At the translation of attention to your daily life and deeper choices.
We do not stay with exercises for focus and calm. We explore what attention shows you when you really dare to direct it. That sometimes brings uncomfortable work, and that is exactly where mindfulness as a way of being begins.
Sessions last 1.5 to 2 hours. Enough room to settle with attention into what is. Everything is welcome. Without judgement, with full attention.
What you say here stays here. Attention in breadth sometimes asks for courage. That space is here.
Sessions take place on location in The Hague (indoor or outdoor), online, or a combination.
What coaching with attention brings is not measurable in minutes of meditation. It is a different kind of presence that extends across how you work, choose and live.
You notice you have more room in choices. Not to think longer, but to align better with what fits.
You start to see that your thoughts are not you. That sounds cliché until you really experience it. After that it changes the relationship with yourself.
You learn to use your body as a source of information. Not only as a thing you take care of, but as a place where wisdom sits.
Real mildness for yourself is different from forgiving yourself everything. It is daring to see clearly and still stay soft. That distinction you learn to feel.
The base note of your day becomes less reactive. Not because you have become better at suppressing, but because you really sit less stuck on triggers.
Mindfulness coaching is filled in in many ways. Some coaches teach you exercises. Others work from a spiritual framework. Yet others integrate it in cognitive behavioural therapy. I briefly explain what this form is and what it is not.
This is not a mindfulness training. For those who want to learn the basics of mindfulness, there are excellent programmes in various forms. They give structure, exercises and offer a group process. My work connects to that, but starts from a different point. It assumes you have already done something with attention and want to go further.
Nor is this pure meditation guidance. If you want a retreat or daily guidance with your meditation, there are meditation teachers offering that specifically. My work is broader and focuses on how attention works in your whole life.
What you get here is integration. Mindfulness as a basis for a coaching package, in which we do not only practise attention, but also work with what attention shows you. Which patterns you can see when you are attentive. Which choices become different when you are present. Which relationships change when you really listen.
I work with three pillars. Psychology, to understand how your attention has been formed. Systemic work, to see which forces continually pull your attention away. And an integral, experience-based approach, in which attention is not only thinking but also feeling and experiencing.
For those who want to learn attention as technique, there are other routes. For those who want attention as a way of living, this form may fit.
I work with people who see mindfulness not as a hobby but as a doorway to a different way of working and living. My approach combines psychology, systemic work and an integral, experience-based way of looking. No fixed step-by-step plan, no quick fix. But room to see more deeply what is actually going on and to move from there with more clarity. I work on location in The Hague. Sessions live indoor or outdoor, online or in combination.
Each package starts with a no-obligation introduction. We discuss your situation and look together at which package suits you. The sessions after that last 1.5 to 2 hours, so we can stand still with you with all the room and attention, without rush or pressure.
A compass for those who want to take a first step. In three sessions we look at what is going on, you recognise your patterns, beliefs and stories and you get fresh insights to take into your work straight away.
For those who want to go to the core. In six sessions we create room for essential change. You explore who you are beyond your patterns, beliefs and stories, and learn to live and work from there.
For specific questions such as (impending) burnout, grief, major life changes or reintegration. A package fully tuned to what you need.
Get in touch for a no-obligation proposal
After a completed package you can always come back for a single session of 1.5 to 2 hours. For a check-in, deepening, or when something new shows up on your path.
Many employers reimburse coaching through the training budget, so it is worth asking. Are the costs a barrier for you? Let me know. There is sometimes room.
In a no-obligation introduction we explore together what is going on and whether there is a click. No commitments, just an honest conversation.
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